Christmas Nightmare

When it comes to shopping for Christmas and birthdays, I'm the kind of person that when I see something in a store that will suit somebody I know I'll pick it up and put it away. Generally it makes life easier, as I'm not rushing when it comes to having to get a gift for someone when the time is needed. It also helps spread the spending out throughout the year.

But I don't always do this, and yesterday afternoon on December 23, I was getting a few things for my Mom at the Bay. Her birthday is in early January so I got some stuff to give her both for Christmas and for her birthday. Without giving away what I got her, I will say that the gifts are items that will match and compliment some home decor items she bought herself earlier in the year. After I paid for everything, I had to wait for the salesperson to wrap them up to help protect them for their journey home with me. When all was said and done, there were four bags that I had to take to my car. They were a bit bulky and heavy, so I took three of the bags to the car first, leaving the last bulky bag at the sales counter. I could've taken them all but they are fragile and I didn't want to risk having them hit each other or hit obstacles en route to my car. The sales lady did offer to help me by carrying the last bag herself to the car with me, but there were other people in line and I told her that she should probably help them as I could easily make two trips. This is something I've done many times before, so I didn't think it would be a big deal.

In hindsight I should've taken her up on her offer as when I came back about ten minutes later, the last bag was gone. The salesperson asked her coworkers if anyone had accidentally taken it to the back or to the office they have access to, or even if they accidentally just put the stuff away. None of that was the case and she herself checked those areas to be sure. Ultimately it seems likely someone else in line took the package - either by accident or on purpose. 

After going back to my car and bringing what bags I did have back, we went through the receipt to find out what was missing. She checked their inventory and replaced two of the missing items and refunded me for the other four items they didn't have. So now I have an uneven amount of the items I was going to give Mom - two incomplete sets. So those will be her birthday present as I'll have to get them somewhere else. There is a small bonus in this in that it will give me time to figure out how many she has in the set of what these belong with as I made a best guess.?But it's also inconvenient as I had wanted to give these now missing items to her for Christmas and what I'll now be giving her for her Christmas are the items that I had wanted to give her for her birthday (if that makes sense). Oh well.

If someone took the bag of my stuff on purpose then that's pretty bold of them as there were security cameras and it was fairly busy. If they did it on purpose they'll find the items to be somewhat odd - they are unique and will look odd next to the other items people might have of this type. On the other hand I don't know if they will be able to return the items as they don't have a receipt - but if they do return them (say to another Bay) I'm guessing all they'd get would be store credit.  

If it was an accident though and someone took it as maybe their bags were placed next to it during their purchase then hopefully they will return it. The ladies in this department did take my contact information so I could get the set I had initially purchased if this was the case and the bag gets dropped off.

Ultimately this wasn't a nightmare but it definitely was a bit of an inconvenience as it ate up a huge chunk of what little time I had left to get to the last place I wanted to go to yesterday. Certainly a first world problem.

Time for me to get some sleep now, I have to get up early and wrap some gifts and then deliver them. Then I'll be meeting my mom and will see the movie Jackie in the afternoon before going home and having a restful Christmas Eve. Happy holidays and merry Christmas to everyone who reads this, I hope you have everything you need for the holidays and get everything you want. Take care and be safe! 

a new start?

It's cliche to say that today will be a new start. But for me, it is. I'm determined to wipe the slate clean. I'm going to get up off my ass, in spite of only having a few hours of sleep, and get some stuff done. I'll push till I'm too tired to do more. Then maybe I can go to bed at a normal hour. 

 Yesterday, for the first time in a long time, I reached my daily fitness goals.

My Fitbit Goal Tracking: May 31

My Fitbit Goal Tracking: May 31

Today I'll try and do this again. My first task of the day, after some personal grooming will be to go through the house to collect as much trash as I can as its the collection occurs today. Then I'll see where I go from there.  I've got to get my house organized. I just gotta.

 I don't think Mum will have any appointments today, so I should be able to just keep working here. I'll try to post an update on how that's going as the day pushes on. 

 

 

where to go from here?

I'm at a crossroads of sorts. Well, not really. I've been trying to figure out what domain to get for my website. Since 1999, I've used steveleenow.net as stevelee.com / stevenlee.com and other variations of just using my name have seemingly always been taken.

Here's a short list of possibilities for a new name:

  • stevelee.life

  • thesteveleelife.net

  • thesteveleeidea.net

  • thesteveleeimagination.net

  • thesteveleemind.net

  • andnowsomestuff.net

  • andnowstevelee.net

  • steveleeonpurpose.net

  • hereswhatourclientssay.net

  • openingupthestudio.net

  • openingthestudio.net

  • artfulsteve.net

A friend of mine, Elina, came up with these possibilities:

  • quartertosteve.net

  • thenameislee.net

  • wittysteve.net

  • steveleeishere.net

  • livinglifecreativelee.net

  • livingcreativelee.net

  • speakingoflee.net

  • allaboutstevelee.net

I don't want to limit my domain name to just steveleeart or steveleefineart because as art is a huge part of my life, I write a lot and I am into movies as well. So it would be nice to center the name around an image of myself as a creative person.

morning thoughts...

Don’t get cocky kid. My Amazon.ca order arrived yesterday. I'm glad that it did. I had ordered a few movies: BASQUIAT, CAMILLE CLAUDEL, VINCENT & THEO as well as THE PIANO. We have two watch two of these films for an essay for my Liberal Education CREATIVITY & INNOVATION class at Kwantlen University College.

The other films include: SYLVIA, POLLOCK, EDVARD MUNCH, AMADEUS and SURVIVING PICASSO. The only film I can't find on DVD right now is SURVIVING PICASSO. So I think I'll go rent it tonight as our midterm exam is on PICASSO, mainly related to a few readings we have done, but I'd also like to see the film so I have a deeper understanding of the man.

In addition to the above movies, another item arrived yesterday. One that I'm enticed to read: Money Drunk, Money Sober: 90 Days to Financial Freedom by Julia Cameron & Mark Bryan. The book tackles the issue of handling personal finances. Here's what the backcover and amazon say about the book...

In a society where it is often easier to discuss sex than money, many of us have hidden issues about personal finances. But when fending off bill collectors, begging for salary advances, or borrowing from relatives becomes a way of life, unresolved money problems can lead to enormous stress and destroy relationships, careers, and lives. Do you recognize yourself or someone you love in any of these descriptions?

THE COMPULSIVE SPENDER Do you buy things and hide them?

THE BIG DEAL CHASER Do you refuse to watch your money because one big deal is going to make everything all right?

THE MAINTENANCE MONEY DRUNK Is the pay the only thing you like about your job?

THE POVERTY ADDICT Do you feel morally superior to people with money?

THE CASH CODEPENDENT Are you afraid to say no to your partner about money?

Through their highly effective seminars, Mark Bryan and Julia Cameron have helped many people free themselves from the painful cycle of acting out with money. The Money Drunk offers new perspectives on the real roots of money problems, showing how to dismantle negative family and societal programming about money and how to undo the destructive patterns that sabotage your financial success. The program teaches new, more constructive habits to anyone who has ever had a problem with money.

I do have some of the above problems. I buy too much when I know I probably shouldn't. I've cut a lot of debt out of my life, but I could do better when it comes to saving. I'm not horrible with money, but I know I could be a lot better and I think this book will help me a lot as I continue my summer journey of self empowerment.

DIVE.

I took a chance on the weekend, when I had a bit too much to drink. I got the guts to send a message to someone who has caught my eye of late. When you are drunk, you are more honest? Or perhaps the shyness that consumes you sometimes dissipates to some degree.

DIVE DEEPER.

She responded. And it made me smile. But I won't get to see her for awhile as she is going away for the summer. Smack. But she did say "...look forward to seeing you in the Fall."

SMILE.

So I'm really glad I got over the hill on that one. REALLY GLAD. I had this nervousness when I saw her response, wondering if I'd get smacked down. But it was a kind, thoughtful and positive response. Sometimes I'm so shy around people I like. Maybe I need to drink a bit more to get over that. Maybe not.

It's a bright beautiful day outside. I'm looking forward to today. Yesterday, I was a little stressed. The cheque I had deposited last week on a cash advance to buy equipment for the KSA had not cleared. But today, it has cleared! So I will be going to purchase a BBQ, and other items for the KSA. Then, I'll have to put that thing together. My Mom wanted help with some shopping, and I was stressed last night because I have a few things to do. But I think I'll offer to take her up this morning, in an hour or so (depending on how long she needs). I figure if I'm on the road by 2pm, I'll be ok. I can go get the BBQ and put it together this afternoon and into the early evening.

So life is good. Life is GREAT.

I attended yesterday a Education Council retreat. I'll write a report on that later today (well maybe within the next 15 minutes).

I have to get some reading done in the morning too. Lots to do!

It never ends.

Life goes on.

It never ends.

Life.

Something else has bothered me lately and I think I effectively dealt with it last night. A motion was moved a few weeks ago at our executive board meeting - in jest - but in response to the problems I had hearing in my left ear following my trip to Ottawa (my ear didn't "pop" from the time I landed in late May until the other day. I couldn't hear at all out of the left ear and for 2 weeks I was in a lot of severe pain because of it. Then, the pain went away but I still couldn't hear). The motion directed me to purchase and use q-tips and to report back on it at the next meeting. I was a bit angered by the motion, as I felt it made light of something that I didn't find to be funny. I didn't make this problem up. I did miss my office hours my first week back from Ottawa - I was dizzy and disoriented because of the pain. I did go to a walk in clinic, but there was nothing they could do - I just had to wait until it "popped." The problem wasn't related to cleanliness or a lack of hygiene. In fact, I'm a bit of a germ-a-phobe, and I keep things clean. And I didn't make up the problem as an excuse to miss work. I have been ill a lot over the last year, but not by choice (a lot of that has been related to my lifestyle, lack of exercise and how I eat too much junk). But to be honest, being essentially deaf in my left ear scared the hell out of me. It was so disorienting and scary. I remember being in a store, looking at some books, and someone beside me was also looking - taking a book off of the shelf, flipping through it and returning it to the shelve. The store was not busy, so normally, you would be able to hear the sounds related to those actions that you could see with your peripheral vision. But I couldn't hear anything - I could see - but could not hear. I can't imagine how awful it must be for those who have permanent hearing damage - I hope no one ever has to go through that. When you loose one of your senses, like hearing, it really reminds you just how small and fragile we humans really are. I don't think I'll take that kind of thing for granted again. So I expressed these thoughts to my fellow executive via an e-mail last night and asked that they rescind the motion at our next meeting. We all do things in jest (I know I do a lot in jest), but sometimes there are boundaries - or even if you think there are not boundaries, if you feel hurt by something, you shouldn't be afraid to express that discomfort.

Anyway, time to get on with the day!

- Steve